Sunday, August 14, 2011
(Long Post) I'm going to be a teenage daddy... can anyone give me advice? In need of support.. please help?
I never thought i'd be in this situation until i was 23. You may have seen me around posting questions on a possible pregnancy. And now, here i am, about to become a teenage daddy at 16. As it may seem like a normal messed up teenager thing, my girlfriend is 15 and a freshman, while i am a junior. We are also of South-eastern asian descent and first generation children of immigrants, so tight cultural ties will be involved. I have decided to be a man about things and take care of our baby. However, it is not that i fear having the child, but i fear for the well being of our lives, and the entire process of the pregnancy. So far, her parents do not know (or have a faint clue, no pun intended), that we are dating. I am ready to take the consequences however dire. I worry about how my friends and family will look at me now though. After much consideration on not killing innocent babies, we are not going to abort. However, only we know about the pregnancy, and no one else does. At one month, she is already starting to show a round belly. At first, instead of , we tried other ways (no was made except with the fingers, no pre-jack was found either, and she is extremely faithful) to cope with our feelings. We have also agreed to this and didn't expect to have children until we were older. Although it seems rather highly, highly unlikely that she got pregnant, at this point the hows and should'ves do not matter. What i would like to request here is comfort. I feel pressure slowly taking over because of the fact that the others don't know. Also, how should i deal with the approaching inevitable? I do have a job, so it may make up for any short-comings, and i have already established a savings account in my name. I don't spend much either. Also, i will be getting a permit soon in driver's ed cl at school so i will be fine in terms of transportation, yet a free car is subject to contemplation. Please, mothers and fathers of yahoo answers, can you guys help me with this? I need support and comfort, and i'm not sure i can deal with it alone. I heavily predict that there will be a lot of blame and yelling at us, and i don't want that. She plans on moving in with me and attending my school after the baby is old enough, or taking an alternative learning community to finish high school. I plan on researching jobs that take little time to acquire and pay really well. I have heard that there are many occupations that pay well with an ociate's degree, such as ultrasound operator, registered nursing and being an electrician. Problem is is that my GPA may not look good, but my pre-ACT and PSAT score may prove otherwise, but i'm not sure how it will affect my college applications. Any info on this? There is a chance that she may miscarry, yet my motivation is derived from our growing little boy ( or we hope it is ), so no ill-intentions are anywhere. what should i do? stay in school is a no brainer, and staying at work too, yet my pay isn't so satisfying as it should be. I believe that this person may be the one for me and she believes i am the one for her. I have gone through many deaths, many of them extremely important people, in my life to know how valuable it is to be alive and accepting of what we have. Honestly, i think i may be depressed. My mind is balancing on the borders of irrationality from lost hope. Can someone please help me? What can or should i do? How was your experience being a teenage parent? Any mothers or fathers out there who can relate and support? And please, no bashing; I have had enough of being verbally and mentally stepped down to be dealing with your negativity.
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